We didn't start the fire..

...it was always burning...since the world's been turning...

Are those even the right lyrics? It sounded right in my head, so whatev.

I have always said that I do not believe in FATE, but more that we make our own destiny by the paths that we choose. Destiny is kind of a lame word, but you know what I mean. The decisions we make on a daily basis, whether it be what kind of creamer to put in our coffee or what street we decide to take to our destination, each and every one of these actions somehow pave the road for future.

Sounds ominous in a way doesn't it?

But think about it. That street could one day be a street that you live on because you noticed how pretty it looked that day... or the coffee creamer flavor could be some interesting new flavor with a cool name that sticks with you...and BAM, you have your first child's name.

OK, so my examples are a little far out... but I never said I think like a normal person.

It's funny, but nothing really in particular lead me on this train of thought... but you know it goes, one little thing will trigger a mass of thoughts and feelings and next thing you know you are day dreaming on the freeway with a semi-truck headed in your direction.

Happens all the time.

But then there are those BIG decisions. The ones where you have nightmares of standing on a lone deserted road with a fork in yet... wondering which direction you should take because both look like they lead to nowhere, but knowing one is the right one but how do you know until after you have committed to one.

hate those dreams.

Although, mine usually end up with me naked doing dirty things in my sexy pants... but I digress... (THOSE dreams I like, regardless of how they start) ...

Any hooters... those decisions most certainly define your destiny, there is not disputing that, because really, those decision shape who you are as an individual: your decision making for one. Good? Bad? Idiotic? (I sometimes I fall into the latter category, I wont lie) , your maturity for another. I make stupid decisions all the time... but that's ME, that is who I am as an individual on this Earth. Sometimes I make excuses, sometimes I don't, but the bottom line is that I am me, good decisions or bad.

So in short (LOL - am I EVER short?)

Fate is some fucktards way of explaining away their bad decisions because they don't want to be accountable. Fuck that - we make it ourselves... so let's all get our head out of asses and plow ahead with positivity, maturity, and knowledge that stupid or not, we are who we are so let's roll with it....

(side note: the title of the post "we didn't start the fire...it was always burning since the world is turning" is a fucking metaphor. If you don't get it, tough shit)